You know what's amazing about families, despite the many imperfections each person brings to the table and the number of issues that surface as a result of poor decisions; the bond between families remains in tact. We are so loyal to our families, almost to a fault. We end up forgetting to set healthy boundaries with the ones we love the most, putting us in awkward positions.
I have learned to put my wife and children's needs above the needs of my extended family. There are a number of pressing issues, right now,within my extended family's situation; I could easily become actively involved with. However, I have chosen the health and well being of my wife and children over my issues my extended family is dealing with.